Hey men, here is an email I just received from a friend of mine. A pilot, businessman, and a group leader on Monday night. His is a great story and I wanted to pass it on. Here it is.
What does Men’s Purity Really Look Like?
At first this seems like a super simple question. Just go to church, pray, read your bible and don’t sleep with anyone other than your wife and don’t look at porn and don’t lust and don’t swear and don’t drink and don’t and don’t and don’t……..But when I ponder this question I start to see a different answer than my life in Christendom might have produced. About three years ago I went through the worst month of my life. I lost my son and my wife within two weeks of each other. I found myself doing some dumb stuff and then ended up joining a men’s purity group. I ended up making the deepest and closest relationships of my life with other men in this purity group. I was finally really known and knew other men in a depth of transparency that I had never experienced before. When we read the accounts of King David (a man after God’s heart) we see a total failure of the typical Christian purity list. A guy with his history would have never been in any type of church leadership in most of our denominational churches. But wait he was a man after God’s own heart, a champion in the list of great bible examples. My experience in these last three years has changed my answer to this question. First of all, may I only ever sleep with my wife and may I not lust, look at porn or do any other dumb stuff. May I also get to live an exciting, wild and crazy fun life totally free of the hooks in the” list of don’ts”. We have all seen the very public pastors scream out the lists of don’ts and then get caught in some crazy sex scandal. Real purity to me now looks like a scene in my life from about a year ago, when about fifteen leaders in the men’s purity group came out to my ranch for an overnight get together. These guys walk the walk in purity in a way very rare to any group of Christian men I have ever been around. They are the real deal! The evening slowed down after about a thousand rounds of ammunition were fired, killing countless paper targets, clay birds, cans and various things that blow up when shot and eating some really good meat. We were all sitting around a fire, each sharing some super deep personal stuff about our lives and it was then that I realized that I am sitting with a group of King David’s. I have been involved in “church whatever” for 49 years . Now check out the camp fire scene, each man has a beer in one hand and most have a cigar in the other hand (this sure messed with past Baptist theology picture of men’s purity). The bible says it like this: Prov.24:16 a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again. It doesn’t define a righteous man as a man that doesn’t fall or stumble. So we all fall, but it is what we do after, that is key. I want to be with men that are real and get up and go after it again. My definition of men’s purity has now become a super cool lifestyle that includes being really known by other men, close relationship with God, adventure, success, business, play, cool family time, joy, peace, crazy erotic mind blowing sex with my wife and the list goes on including the ability to successfully navigate the pain that comes along at times in all our lives. Hey men choosing a life of running after purity, is not a loss of anything fun, it is a life of maxing out the excitement meter. It is a life envied by most other men in and out of Christendom. I love my life and I truly feel that I live life like a rock star, only better. Who would of ever thought Kingdom living would have included great beer and cigars.