I want to be a better man. A better husband, a better father, a better friend. I want to be better with money, a better listener, kinder, and more encouraging. Better is the goal, improvement, a little at a time. The moment you start to get better sexually and sober up it opens up a whole new world of better. You begin to see how messed up the rest of your life is and you want to make it better, a lot better.
Now it would be great to just have this huge turn around….like, bam! “hey mom, I’m all better now.” But it doesn’t work that way. Most of the time you say to yourself “I want that” and you go for it. You do the work, you think, you ask for help, but mostly you just work really hard at it….and it get’s frustrating because you’re not getting much better, or you don’t think you are and about that time you have a moment when the work pays off. The star’s aline, and you get a little bam!, not the big one you were looking for, not the lottery ticket but something good happens and the pieces fall together and you realize that you’re better. Welcome to life. your growing up, and this is how it works.
A big part of getting better is to recognize where you need to change. I saw something today at the beach talking to my wife. I just recognized something else 3 days ago….yep, up late talking to my wife. …and I have been seeing my…..well….not so good side on occasion with my kids…..and that makes me want to change. It increases my desire to get better, to be better.
My wife and I have this on going joke that regularly gets a chuckles out of us. When ever I see some area that I need to work on I say “I’m going to change”. We laugh because I have plenty of work to do and I found one more thing to add to the list. The cool part about having a list to work on is that you get to check things off the list too. After a while you don’t need to work on that anymore because…well,….you’re better.
On Monday nights we applaud better, even a little bit, something, anything. Better is what we are after because we know that a lot of little bits of better over time make a better man.