If you want to get better fast give people information about yourself that they can hurt you with.
I spoke last Monday night and went dangerously honest. One of them came up to me after and asked “how do you know how much is ok to share”? My answer was/is “over share.” Better to say to much than not enough.” Let there be no chance of anything remaining hidden. All you have to lose is the person you were pretending to be and he was sick. Honest is healthy.
Honesty is fun. You have to get over trying to look cool and lay it out there and once you do you become truly cool. Try to shock people, you’ll know you’re doing it right when your speaking and you see blank shocked faces looking back at you that seem to be saying “can he really say that? Was that OK?” ..and then just take it way to far, go all in. I have seen over the years the men who get better fast and become great leaders follow this path. One man in the room who became a regular speaker in the room before he moved out of state even posted on his Facebook that he struggles with masturbation. Wow, that was awesome. It made me uncomfortable to even write that: ) That’s what I’m talking about.
Those of you reading this blog are on the fast track. To stay there find people that can make you blush and hang out them. Let it rub off, it will. It’s what you need, it’s what you want. To be fully in the light, to be fully known, to be completely who you are.