How many of you know that if you are going to do well in keeping control of your penis you need to do relationship well. One of the door ways to relationship is good manners.
20 years ago I had a great prophetic word given to me. “Be mindful of your manners because you will sit with Kings.” I took it to heart and purchased Miss Manners and several other similar books to help clean this farm boy up. There was a lot of work to. Bad habits to break, accepted practices needed to be learned with others in varying circumstances that I didn’t have a clue about. One thing that made it a little harder was that I mixed with a wide variety of cultures/vocations/economic and education levels that made proper manners a moving target.
I haven’t sat with any Kings that I know about yet but I am doing better and two decades later I still have work to do. My wife still gives me a little talk for spitting when were in town, and restraining myself from adjusting myself when women are around is a sacrifice. Good manners are doorways to relationship. They show that you love yourself, and respect those who you are with.
Alright you neanderthals. Here is some stuff to work on: Leave the toilet seat down (unless you’re at a hunting cabin). Trim your nose hair, brush your teeth, wash your clothes, and wear something to make you smell better. Don’t put anything in your mouth but food (or a duck call). When meeting someone shake hands firmly and make eye contact. Open doors for your lady, and any others that present opportunity(the older they are, the more points you get). When your at a restaurant being seated, pull out her chair and keep your hands on it while she pulls it back in and sits down. Place your napkin in your lap, if you get up leave it on the chair, when you’re finished leave it on the table. Find out what she wants, then order it for her, when you pay the bill tip 20%. Chew with your mouth closed, and don’t smack. When walking on a sidewalk, walk on the street side protecting her from cars. When shopping, follow her. When on a trail walk in front (that way the bears and snakes eat and bite you first). Buy her flowers, change diapers, wash dishes. Tell people thank you. Remember names, and don’t interrupt unless something is on fire. Pass on taking another call when you are already on one. Don’t text, take calls or look at your phone when you are with someone. If you must talk bad about someone do it to their face. Talk good about them behind their backs. Talk about your sex life only with your wife.
Bad manners is lazy. Good manners however are honoring, and open doors to future relationship. Mind your manners and penis will thank you for it. Not only in the bedroom but in purity. Consideration of others will connect you, and that connection will help to free you. It’s an act of humility that is an extension of love of Christ.