Jesus had a wide variety of emotions. He wept, He felt compassion, frustration, anger. He experienced anguish, sadness, grieved, betrayal, abandonment, happiness, and rejection. He was a Man in His thirties in one of the most violent cultures in history, yet He showed emotion openly.
Boys are born more sensitive than girls, but by the age of five, it begins to get conditioned out of them. With social conditioning lines like “toughen up,” “don’t be a crybaby,” or “only girls cry,” men are taught to internally turn off. If you didn’t hear a line like this directly, you got the message. From a very young age, we are culturally shamed into shutting down your emotions.
If the list of emotions you are feeling looks like the ones that Jesus experienced, then you are doing it right. Not only is it okay for men to feel, we need to feel. Feeling literally equals healing. To be fully alive, you’ve gotta feel it all. To get to the happy, you have to feel through the sad. Face it, embrace it, and enjoy it. Both the brutal and the beautiful need to happen, and they want to happen. It is your job to let it happen.