Set aside some time to process and see if you need a good cry. I found that if I can pull off before a stressful event like a family gathering and have a good cry, I can be more present in the encounter. Basically, I am processing through the backlog of emotions so I can be current and deal with the now rather than the pains of the past. When I show up emotionally current, I carry an authority and confidence that makes the whole event much more enjoyable for everyone. A current emotional foundation even helps navigate those pains of the past. Hope this helps.
PS: There is a lot going on when you cry. There will be more coming on this at ManAlive, but just know you have permission to cry. Especially during the Holidays. Any good hashtag ideas? #ManTears.. #MenCry..???