I am not a big fan of church words, or religious words of any kind. If you wouldn’t say a word in the auto mechanics shop please don’t say it around me. Please.
I love Jesus, I know my bible really well, I have a good theological mind, and I love the people of God, but Church words don’t do it for me. When men use religious words it’s very difficult to get to know them. Men use Christian vocabulary to hide behind and don’t even know they’re doing it…like some kind of secret Christian code. Don’t buy it. That kind of talk will isolate you, and turn you into something that you don’t want to be. I don’t want to have a relationship with someones religious vocabulary, I want to have a relationship with them.
Here’s a recent example of what I’m talking about: I started a new small group last week and though I warned and directed them all multiple times to not use church words, they all did. Over and over again, they could hardly even talk or say anything meaningful about themselves and who they are. It was super frustrating.
On our second week I wasn’t super excited as usual to coming back to group…….I just wasn’t in the mood to police all the church talk. But then when we sat down, The first man to share cried and slobbered his way through one of the most fantastic shares ever and didn’t use one church word, not once.
We went around the circle after that and the guys where going deep, sharing raw, being super honest, laying out some tough stuff, it was great. When we were done I realized no one used one church word the whole time, not once. No one mentioned God at all, but God was very much there, it was healing, it was freeing. It was like…wow, I love these guys, I want to get to know them. We were having church, with out the church vocabulary, it was a holy event, God showed up and didn’t need a bunch of three syllable plus words to do it. Just honest men, being themselves.
Our words hold the power of life and death. The words we chose can bring us closer to people, or separate us from them. It’s much easier to be the same person no matter whose company you’re in. To do that you need to refine how you say things using common words to describe spiritual things and the work of God in our lives. It takes a lot of work at first, but once you’re used to it life gets’ smooth because you’re not having to watch what you say all the time depending on who your with.
When we’re in the small group on Monday night a lot guys naturally default to religious talk when things start hitting to close to home. The tendency is to skirt their issues with some spiritual mumbojumbo that keeps them from being known, the very thing you need to get better.
So lose the church words, step out into the open and let yourself become known. When you do men will be drawn to you, both inside, and outside the church. The authentic you is refreshing, find that man and never let him go.