Nothing like a good laugh, when we laugh, the cares of the world are gone. We have this moment when the world is good, we’re happy and there is no place we would rather be. I’m not talking about a little chuckle but a deep feel it from the inside of your guts full on hard laugh that makes you cry. A laugh that is so funny you can can’t breath and have to fight to come up for air. It goes on so long that your stomach hurts, and you’re sore in the morning.
I love to laugh, you laugh with people you love. My family has our own set of inside jokes, if we even mention a line we all start laughing. A good healthy sense of humor is….well,….healthy. We need it, it’s good for us. We let our guard down and we feel together something good.
In high school I made a laughing tape of my friends just laughing. I would put it on the stereo in my Jeep and drive around with the top off and make people laugh where ever I went, it was big fun. Watching people laugh, will make you laugh, one happy person creates a bunch more happy people. Click here for a good laugh.
The dark-side of humor.
I used to be able to tell jokes for hours, one after another. Then in college I had a humor theory class and our project was to do a stand up comedy act. By the time I got done reading the book I realized that the vast majority of humor is laughing at someone so I stopped telling jokes. It was good that I did, and I have never looked back. Bad humor hurts relationships and you need relationships to get better. Bad humor distracts you from what you really need to look at. It keeps you in a false protective bubble that only hurts you in the long run.
We need to laugh, but we need the right kind of laugh. When I am sitting in a small group I put up with next to zero humor. We’re sitting down doing serious business and there is no room for it. Many times I have put men on a humor fast, that’s no jokes for a week. I have done this many times with crazy positive results. The first time I did was with a man I noticed was joking nearly all the time. If any subject, or person got close to him he would make a humorous remark to to push it away. The homework I gave him was no jokes of any kind for a week. The moment I said it he turned pale white, froze for a moment and then put his head down and started crying. He cried for a year after that. Nearly every time I saw him he was crying, he couldn’t stop. He thought he needed a laugh, but what he really needed was a good cry. He needed to face things in life, not mask them with humor. He did, he got better, and became a leader, speaker, and father in the room, his workplace, and in his family.
Jesus wept, and he laughed more than all his friends (Hebrews 1:9) A healthy man does both regularly, and at the right time. Some of you men need a good laugh, and some of you need to take a break from it. You know who you are. Laugh till it hurts, or cry until you’re done. Either way, you’ll get what you need.