Passivity is the enemy of purity. An ongoing struggle with sexual sin is rooted in passivity, it’s a disease that want’s to kill you.
Passivity says I’ll do that later. It’s no big deal. It wont’ really hurt that much. It will just work it’s self out. I’ll let my wife take care of it. I’ll leave this one up to God. If I ignore it it will go away. The money will be there some how when I need it. I don’t need to tell them that, they’ll figure it out. I’ll just let that one go this time. Some one else will do it. I’ve got time, I’ll do my taxes later. That hurt, but they probably will never do it again. I’m sure they know what I want/need. The kids will be fine. My dad didn’t mean to do it. My mom had a hard childhood and I just want to honor her so I won’t say anything. I’ll do that later/next time. That check should clear. My wife knows what I need.I don’t really want to bother them, I can figure this out on my own.
If you want to get better, it’s completely up to you. It’s there for you to take, there are no short cuts, and it’s not short term. We’re not here for you to do a diet program, lose 30 lbs and put back on 40. It’s a lifestyle, you must play offence and not let up. Take the fight to it or the fight will come to you. Sexual sin wants you dead, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. It fears who you are and what you can do when you’re fully alive. Wait on God and his great plans for you to develop over time but do not wait on sexual purity, it will not just happen to you, it will not find you, you have to want it, you have to do what it takes to get it, and form lifestyle to keep it. Purity is up to you period. You have to want it for you, good intentions to be sexually pure for your wife, church, kids, pastor, community, or to keep your deacon position are not enough . It’s eye of the tiger time, you will suffer, and feel excruciating pain, but know this, everything you ever wanted is on the other side.
I regularly struggle with passivity, and I’m a pretty aggressive get things done person. We’re all just trying go figure it out. Jesus is the model in all things and he didn’t have a passive bone in his body, yet he sat by the lake, and went out in the woods to be alone. It wasn’t avoidance, he need solitude, he needed to take care of himself and fill up the tank. Those acts of removing himself from people for a while, eating with friends, taking a nap in the boat were purposeful and Spirit led. Get to know yourself, what you need, what you want, who you are and go deep with your friendships and those choices will come easier for you over time. You’ll know the difference between passivity and rest, isolation and solitude, choose the rest, choose the solitude, choose the right people to spend time with. Be OK with saying no to the good so that you can say yes to the best.
Let me pray for you…..rather read this prayer out loud. Jesus, fill me with a burn for holiness. Wash me clean, and help me live there. Kill the passivity in my life, give me courage and fearless as I face what I need to face and do what I need to do. Direct me, give me a plan, and help me to walk it out. Help me to identify solid long term honest friendships where I can both love and be loved. Teach me how to be a man, a friend, a father, and a great husband. Help me to be honest, and live that way in every circumstance. Heal me, free me, and let the cave man in me loose, for you your glory, my family, and to have fun doing it all. Amen.