Here comes another relationships get you better blog. I do a lot of these, because……(yeah, he’s gonna say it again) relationship hurt you, and it’s relationships that heal you.
With that in mind here is some relational advice that will get you and more importantly keep the friendships that you need, the friendships you really want, the relationships others are envious of. One of the best compliments I have ever gotten was “I want your friendships.” The cool part about making friends is that you get all their friends for free. Here’s that list of excellent relational to do’s:
Reach out to people. Use you your phone, stay in contact. If you see something you like about someone, let them know. Nothing like a kind word to pull people in. Pay for lunch. Listen, ask questions. Do things they want to do. Be passionate, get excited. Take lessons from your dog. Run up to people and jump around all happy like. Look them in the eyes and be happy to see them. Be loyal.
Say the hard things to their face, and complement them behind their back. Find out about their history, what interests them, learn their kids names. Go on double dates with your wives. Drink beer, eat steak, and laugh at yourselves. If something is going on come right out and say it, don’t beat around the bush or wait till later, do it now, do it first. Loan them your lawn mower, trailer or camping gear. If you borrow it, return it cleaner and in better shape and full of gas.
Go fishing, take in a game, help them move. Don’t ever take a call when you’re with them (unless it’s your wife). Be their biggest cheerleader, be positive, believe in people, and encourage them. Help them advance their career. Hug. Do the work to keep current. Invite them to things even if you know they can’t come, it still feels good to be invited. Go to their kids games, weddings, and their parents funeral. Do things they like to do. Over look their weaknesses, applaud their strengths. Defend them and help them every chance you get.
Get off Facebook and really like someone. We pick what we plant and we get the friendships we deserve. Be that guy who a man can say with pride “he is my friend.” Be the friend you always wish you had, and you will have the friends you have always hoped for.