To come to grips with the fact that we are lonely is a huge step. But a big jump, and the one that you want to be able to make is to be able to answer the question “what kind of lonely am I?” Essentially what does your heart need?
Does it need to:
Talk to a friend?
C0nnect with the kids?
Not just listen, but really hear your wife?
Be up at 7,000 feet, alone, on a lake catching trout?
When you can say the words “I’m lonely” you are ahead of the pack. But when you can put the finger on the need you become the right kind of dangerous.