In this fast food generation men want quick answers and solutions. There are none. What took you twenty years to get into wont get better in 3 weeks. It takes time, and with diligence you will get better. Continue to look at the hard stuff, don’t be scared of the mess and in time things will begin to burn off and your life will come back into order. When I was younger I liked my food on the run, now I like to eat slowly for hours enjoying excellent food and the company of good friends. Time is your friend.