When I get asked what we are you doing on Monday night that works so well in getting men sexually free. My response is “honesty.”
What a concept. You would think Christians would be really good at honesty with directives like: The 9th commandment “You shall not lie.” Ephesians 4:25 says “put of falsehood and speak truthfully to one another.” 1 Corinthians 13, Gods definition of love that says “love rejoices in truth. But we are not. It’s easier to stay hidden, smoother not to let anyone know what is going on. “How are you doing?” “Great, thank you.” that’s great when it’s true but when it’s not the truth is to much work, or were scared, so we lie.
Lying isn’t’ always about using words to tell untruths. Judas never lied once that we know of in scripture, but he was living a lie, being someone he was not. It cost him his position and his life.
I have been listening to conversations lately and have been taking note of how many times folks say “to tell you truth” or “honestly.” It’s said to brace the person because we are living in a world of polite lies that get repeated so many times that it becomes expected so now we need to warn people when we tell the truth.
What a concept, honesty. What if our politicians said and did what really needed to be done. Stop all spending and pay off debt. They would have a very slim chance of getting elected as there constituents prefer lies to the pain of the truth. There is a great song written and sung by Miranda Lambert called “White Liar” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QoR2Oax82kY the key lyric is “the truth comes out at little at a time.” it went to the top of the charts 3 years ago and is still played regularly because it resonates.
We are only as honest as we feel safe. Rejection is most often our biggest fear. If we let someone know who we are and they reject that than that is all we have and we can’t risk that so we stay hidden in the cultural norms, and indirect falsehood. Its a sad way to live but the truth is scary.
Here are your options in getting free from your sexual junk. …….hmmm….can’t think of any. Our only hope to be holy is to be honest. If you want purity, if you want to not just do revival but sustain it you must be honest. If you are successful and you are not being the real you then you will never enjoy your success because its not really you that it happened to. Are you following me on this? We are as sick as the secrets we keep. So get naked, and be honest. Let yourself become known and you are a free man. Now go make it a lifestyle.