My friend and mentor Russ Willingham is the director of New Creation Ministries in Fresno. Every month he sends out a news letter and this last one was full of some great stuff about what they have learned in the last 26 years working with sexually and relationally broken men.
Sexual brokenness cannot be be healed by a two hour meeting once a week. The sexually broken must come to grips with their core wounds in a an intimate discipleship setting. This is more than memorizing Scripture. It is more that working steps and it is more that sharing briefly in a group and letting others do the same.
We have learned that they must be re-parented by God and other believers who will walk closely with them for five to ten years. We’ve learned that accountability and sobriety is not enough. The only thing that really heals someone at the deepest levels of their soul is intimate relationships. Those take time, are messy and don’t conclude with in forty days, or six months or whatever. Most of all, we’ve learned that broken people need to learn from those who have tasted the behavioral change that comes out of intimacy with God and others.