I have milk goats and got a new one from a friend last month. I took her to get bred and while she was there she learned that she could jump over a fence. One thing they say about goats and I know it’s true about fencing is that “if is doesn’t hold water, it doesn’t’ hold goats.” I brought her home and sure enough she started jumping the fence at home too. A goat is domesticated deer and if they want to get out it’s not much trouble for them. Not a lot you can do. I like her bread and really want to keep her so I hooked a chain to her collar to keep her from jumping. It’s heavy and dragged on the ground and made a lot of noise. I didn’t like putting that chain on her, felt bad actually, but it needed to be done. She didn’t like it much either, it really humbled her and she would just have this broken look about her. After a few weeks I took it off and she is a new goat, all light and happy, and jumping around, but now she doesn’t jump the fence anymore. I also make sure that she is fed some grain every day that is high in protein and give her a tad bit of hay even though they have plenty of pasture grass. I want her satisfied so she never has any need to cross the fence and it’s working and I’m expecting some fine kids and milk from her in the spring.
Here’s the parable. A man that is crossing the line needs a chain around his neck for a while to learn to stay in. It’s not fun, but he needs it if he want’s to stay at home. That chain can be cutting out a lot of things for a time until good habits form. That chain can be getting rid of internet, smart phone, moving from a certain geographical area, changing jobs, listening to a certain type of music, watching movies over a G rating, cutting out relationships or activities that bring you down, staying up after 10 pm, or drinking. When you stay where your supposed to be the chain can come off.
The thing that really keeps men from crossing the fence line is that they are fed well inside the fence. You’re not livestock so it’s up to you to make sure that you are fed, that your real needs are being met. It’s up to you to form good relationships so when the chain comes off the chain stays off. You were not meant to live with a chain around your neck. Being well fed looks like having good friendships both male and female. Making sure you are taking care of you, eating well, observing discipline, staying active, managing your finances well, that you are fulfilled at work, and have purpose beyond yourself. It means that you finding adventure, having fun, making friends, getting outdoors, getting dirty, and living life fully alive.
Freedom is you with out the chain, light and happy and jumping around. Keeping that freedom will depend on you staying well fed.